Part 9 – Top Ten Parenting Mistakes

Some children are sent into their room to study, because there is too much distraction in the rest of the house. Sometimes the child is sent into their

room to study so that they will get it done, with the incentive being they can come out and play as soon as their homework is done. Both of these

approaches leave the child impatient with their homework and willing to rush and cut corners to rejoin the family. The most innovative parent

will create a study time for the family and the child can sit with the rest of the family to do homework, as long as they are quiet. Then the child can get help

when she needs help, and she doesn’t feel banished. If parents write letters, pay bills or read during this time, the child learns to enjoy homework and

learning. Once the child is older, they may choose to go to their room to study, especially if there is a computer in there.


Who says kid’s don’t come with a manual? Now they do! Dr Faye believes that parents need good theory as well as clinicians. With good theory they can parent better and self-correct as well.  The Manual is not just for parents, the information enables adults to objectively evaluate their own childhood lessons and even ‘re-parent’ themselves on their own or with the help of therapy.

S. Faye Snyder, PsyD, is a child and forensic psychologist and marriage and family therapist specializing in attachment and trauma. She is the originator ofThe Causal Theory, a tangible way of understanding how lifelong behavior and personality traits, healthy and unhealthy, arise from parenting. Snyder founded the Parenting and Relationship Counseling (PaRC) Foundation, where she is the clinical director.