To rid yourself of unhappiness you must first prevent any more unhappiness gathering in you.
Unhappiness always begins now.
Unhappiness is substantial and it gathers now. Any unhappiness you remember and grieve over is already past and resident in you, so that is not the unhappiness that begins now. Unhappiness begins with events which are immediately identifiable, events like crashing your car, being parted from someone you love, a sexual disaster, a death, losing your job – any sort of shock. The task is to prevent the emotion of the moment from entering you. This requires immediate action, that instant.
First action: face the fact that the event has actually happened.
The initial reaction normally is one of disbelief. This is an attempt by the emotional body to escape or look away from reality in order to avoid shock. It allows time for emotion to rush in; and you lose your presence.
First perceive the fact.
You do this by not seeing the event as a problem; that is, by not thinking what it will mean to you in the future, or how it is going to affect you. You must stay in the present. You must be real. And to be real means to be present where you are at the moment.
The future has not come. The fact is: your car or part of your life is changed in front of you. Don’t interpret. Don’t analyse. You must see the event only as it is, without putting any imagination or conclusions onto it. Then any physical action required of you will immediately occur in your awareness – without you having to worry or think.
It is now alone that matters. The instant you leave the present by thinking about the future or the past you will be unhappy. You will allow emotion in. That also applies after the event. You must not think back on it, must not go over it in your mind.
Extract from the Barry Long book title:
‘Only Fear Dies’ (pp 37-38) BUY A COPY HERE